My friend who is in her eary '60s decided to quit wearing a bra. I thought she meant around the house, but she meant all the time. She's rather well endowed, and at times there's embarassingly little modesty.

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She retired several months ago and has told me a couple of times since then that she has stopped wearing bras. I thought she meant around the house, but she means ALL the time. Erin is generously endowed and has “headlights.

If your longtime friend is unaware of how much of her “assets” are on display, someone should point it out. If she asks why you have distanced yourself, be truthful. (You may be doing her a favor.) Do not,

I thought she meant around the house, but she means ALL the time. Erin is generously endowed and has “headlights.” In warmer weather, she’s less likely to wear a cardigan, so the lack of a bra or anything else to preserve a bit of modesty other than wearing her shirts in a larger size is starting to bother me.